Today, I attended day one of the Illinois Marriage and Family Therapy Conference. Year after year, I enjoy learning, engaging, being inspired while inspiring one another. It is also nice to speak the same language. We may have different words to describe our art but the systemic and culturally sensitive foundation is systemic. The keynote speaker was Dr. Mona Fishbane. Her cutting edge couple work and intergenerational therapy continues to set the healing stage for change. Families, couples and individuals all over Chicago are changed as a result. What has changed? They have. Literally, their brain has changed. We can change. We can grow. The couples dance can now be seen as the “dance of the amygdala.” A variety of lenses are useful as we are all unique. The couple system is also unique. Family of Origin work is still cool. Thanks for allowing that to be true Mona! Remembering my family therapy roots, learning about cutting edge scientific thought. Back to basics while upgrading to newer versions. Bugs get fixed. New solutions are created. I had a “star” today that signifies “new thoughts that will inform my practice of psychotherapy”. How exciting it is to be inspired. Both professionally and personally. Chicago has become a hotbed of innovative, health producing couple work. I am so lucky to be a part of it. As a person who is a member of many relationships. I cannot learn about ways to improve relational satisfaction without absorbing new skills which can improve my relationships. My brain can change. I can have an empathic connection with a story of healing and apply the lesson to my own relationship with my husband. Allow myself to delve deeper as we practice innovative interventions. My job is to intervene as a therapist. Not power over. But power with. Collaboration.
Whew…that was just day one. It feels enlivening to be inspired. I invite you to be inspired. Fall in love all over again. Create a new trust; a more complicated trust. Take the leap. Face the fear.Be vulnerable. Grow. Change.
I will be there right beside you.